It's simple.
Commit to something and, well, do it.
If you're invited to a party, and it's a Friday night after a long week at work....and you are tired.. buck up, have a shower and get your ass in your car and get to that party. Chances are, that person accounted for your presence and bought groceries, drinks, etc for you.
If you confirm you will attend a concert, someone buys you a ticket....and you back out...open your fucking wallet and give that person what they paid for the ticket, regardless of whether you go or not. It should not be their problem to now find a replacement for you, the flaky friend.
If you give someone your 1000% "word" (which means shit nowadays), and you back out last minute, not only do you suck, but you are risking losing respect from that friend.
Recently I have experienced more cancellations from friends than "kept" commitments. It's rude, it's insulting, and it's a waste of my time. People seem to think that my time is less precious than theirs for some odd, ignorant reason.
If you know me at all, you know that I like straight forward people. Call it like you see it. If I ask you if you want to go to a concert and you don't feel like it, or hate the band - whatever...TELL ME IT SUCKS and you would rather stick pins in your eyes. I can at least move on, and know where you stand on the subject. I won't waste any further time on you.
Giving one's "word" is meaning less and less to me. I find this incredibly sad and unfortunate. This stuff didn't happen half as much back when our parents were younger. People accepted dinner invites months in advance and showed up when they were told. They didn't wait for better offers to surface in those 30 days. They didn't keep their options open. They declined invitations in between and kept their "word".
Nowadays, people feign interest, when they have no intentions on following through - then weakly hide behind their text messaging, cell phones, and emails, and cancel on stuff last minute. Most likely to go to a better offer that surfaced earlier in the day.
I am losing respect for people's value systems. They are disintegrating at a phenomenal rate.
I am officially taking a break from any sort of organizing for a while. The saddest part? No one will even notice, nor care.
* disclaimer - this does not include emergencies or unexpected kid issues, etc. I understand
circumstances beyond our control.
2 comments:
Sing it, sister!
I've had a bit of experience with these inconsiderate twits as well.
My favourite [sic] example involved a group get-together that was basically arranged around the schedule of one particular friend. A few days beforehand she contacted us all to say she'd gotten a last minute invitation to a wedding and wanted to know if we could re-schedule our get-together yet again. Needless to say, we did not.
I also hate those people who bitch about some commitment they've made and go on and on about all the reasons they do not want and should not have to go, obviously hoping that you'll agree with them and provide some justification for them to back out. I always make sure to let that person know how lame I think they are for even trying that tactic.
OK, rant over.
Ok. This is not the same thing but it's pretty damn close. Last week I had made plans with a couple of friends to do something on this coming Sunday. Today she phones me to tell me that both of them have "showers to host" and "people to drive to the airport" on Sunday BUT...BUT...BUT....Saturday would be much better for them if that is okay. GET FREAKIN REAL. I ALREADY MADE PLANS FOR SATURDAY THINKING THAT SUNDAY I WOULD BE OUT WITH MY SO-CALLED FRIENDS. That is the epitome of rude and obnoxious if I dare say so myself.
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