So, there are good days and there are bad days.
More bad days than good lately.
Cancer is such a roller coaster, both emotionally and physically. One day she is up eating Chinese food with me, joking around, and the next day she can't get out of bed. It's frustrating to watch. I realize that this is what cancer does; it's deceptive. Just when you think things are looking up, you get slammed.
Every day, treatment seems to change. Oral turns to injection. Pain meds are increased. Mass explodes in size. Discomfort increases. There is no position that she can maintain that relieves the pain. In the next week or two, a grief counselor will be coming to the house to speak to her kids.
I could go into specifics, but the reality is, no one needs to hear them. Cancer is ugly, plain and simple. I really hope that you never have to watch someone you love go through this. If you have, you can understand just how dreadful it is.
Yet, Laurelle manages to deal with it all with grace somehow. She is truly my hero.
She and the oncologist made the decision to cease treatment. She will be staying at home until this is no longer an option. She will then try to get a spot at McNally House in Grimsby, which is a palliative care centre.
Thanks for all of the emails and nice gestures over the last while. Although I may not respond to them on time, or at all, I really do appreciate it.
M
xo
14 comments:
I finished reading your 5 or 6 most recent blog entries, Mer. When you said "you don't know how Laurelle does it??" I assert you know exactly how she does it since you have watched your Dad and your sister go through life with such grace and ease even in the face of their ups and downs.
One thing I've learned along the way is we are all capable of taking on life as your Dad did and as Laurelle is doing. It takes strength and courage to do so and to get rid of that lame ass story that we all hear so often..."I can't". Your Dad and Laurelle are true inspirations. Her story inspires each and every day.
I have learned a lot through my own reflections when my Dad passed away and more recently when my friend Kelly was killed in a car accident on Dec 20th. I was with her at a funeral home just minutes before she died. You're so right when you say do NOW what you can and want to do. We are only blessed with NOW. Who knows what tomorrow brings.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts with me, Mer. I am hear to listen.
Hugs from your friend and extra sister,
Alysse xo
Meredith, your right, there is nothing nice about cancer. You are both very strong people! I think you are her hero....Don't stop writing!
Thanks - I think that was left by Michelle G?
Merdypops, I don't have words, I don't want to spout cliches, I just want to hug you and Laurelle.
Dear Mer,
I know firsthand the terrible ugliness of cancer and cancer treatment. It can be easy to be bitter with life but it sounds like Laurelle has fought her battles with courage and grace. At this point, you can only appreciate and treasure every moment of every day as a gift and not dwell on whether it's a bad or good day, just be grateful for another day. Take lots of pictures and video, you will be grateful for it later. I'm not very good at putting my thoughts into tactful words but I do empathize with you and your family completely. I'm sure that you will have a reserve of strength that you didn't know you had, to help your sister and family through this difficult time.
Cristina/Steen
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time.
sending you love and prayers --You and your sister are an inspiration of what family really means. Treasure every moment of every day.
Mer,
My prayers are with you and your family. For the kids and for your brother-in-law.
It's not fair...I can't stop thinking about her...
j
Thank you for updating us. This is so heart-wrenching to hear and we feel so very helpless. Please know that we continue to pray for Laurelle and you.
Shirley
Hey Mer, you and your family continue to be in my prayers.
Hey Meredith,
I am sad to read that Laurelle must stop her treatment.... I went through the cancer-journey with my step-dad, and there were times when no words needed to be spoken, I just curled up beside him in his bed and cried. I kind of feel the same thing with you... I don't necessarily know what to say, but wish you could know how much my heart aches for you, Laurelle & your family. I am sending you some long-distance hugs (mixed with tears)...please pass a few on to Laurelle too.
Stay strong my friend...
CB
Your sister will always know how much she is loved by you.
SR
xoxo
Mer,
I am so sorry for what you're going through right now. Just reading it brings tears to my eyes knowing the emotions you are experiencing every day. My advice to you is to spend as much time with Laurelle as you can. Tell her how much you love her and let her know you're going to be okay. Every moment with her is precious. The memories you have of her will last you a lifetime.
Please let me know if there's anything I can do for you.
Hugs from Calgary.
Pants xoxo
We are a family and a family is supposed to stick together in good times and bad. Being each other's hero really isn't or shouldn't be the focus when we are dealing with any sort of set-back in life. We just need to live each day as we would have had if Cancer hadn't been an ugly part of it. The most important part to me now is hopefully having the support of EVERYONE when I think of after this is all said and done and my pain can be set to rest....if that ever really does happen. I want to have the comfort of knowing that my family will have support. Whether or not that means Meredith with have all of her friends helping her hold it together or whether that means all of her support will make her strong enough to support my husband and kids and my mother. Just be there for them all. They have a lifetime of memories and milestones to experience way ahead in their lives....Make sure EVERYONE is involved and keeping the sentiments of holiday and tradition stay alive. That is what would make me happy.
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